OPINION: The idea that Black men are absent fathers is one of the most pernicious lies in all of white supremacist America, and Herschel Walker, a Trump man, has been one of the loudest spreaders of that lie for years.
Editor’s note: The following article is an op-ed, and the views expressed are the author’s own. Read more , author Josh Levs reported that 2.5 million of 4.2 million Black fathers live with their children. Being unmarried does not mean being absent. In many cases, Black couples are living together and raising children while remaining unmarried for any number of reasons.
Black fathers who live with their children are, according to the CDC, more likely than white and Hispanic fathers to feed, eat with, bathe, diaper, dress, play with, and read to their children on a daily basis. Black dads are deeply involved in their children’s lives. Let me say that again for the people in the back—Black dads are deeply involved in their children’s lives.
This is true even for Black fathers who do not live with their children. Several studies have found that “nonresident Black and Hispanic fathers are more involved with their children than White fathers.” One study found “Black fathers exhibited significantly higher levels of shared responsibility and positive coparenting with mothers than either White or Hispanic fathers.”
That study went on to say, “Recent studies focused on unmarried fathers in particular have shown that many Black fathers remain highly involved after a nonmarital birth.. Even in the case of incarceration, minority fathers maintained contact with their children more often than White fathers. Taken as a whole, studies increasingly suggest that minority fathers are more likely to maintain parent-child ties outside of a committed, residential relationship with the child’s mother compared to White fathers.” Did I mention that Black dads are deeply involved in their children’s lives?
The myth of the absent Black father who is ignoring his children to the detriment of the next generation is a dangerous lie. It casts the Black man as someone who is so lacking in character that he’s not even willing to take care of his children. He’s failing at a man’s most important responsibility—taking care of his family. If you believe that, then you can justify any harsh reprisal you can imagine. But the truth is this: Black men are out here raising their kids whether they live with them or not.
Maybe Herschel Walker’s football career led to him having so many concussions that he cannot recall all of his children. He just forgot three of his kids. But he remembered to bash Black men who…??? Now that we know that Walker is living a Black stereotype, maybe he can stop perpetuating the lie that all of us are like him.
He doesn’t need to say Black men are absentee, he can just show up and be absentee. Whenever he is in the public eye, we know that he’s not raising his kids. He’s here speaking to us. But he is an exception. The vast majority of Black men are raising their children and care deeply about them. My father was there for me in my home every day of my life, and my kids know nothing but Daddy being there for them every day. I couldn’t imagine not seeing my kids all the time. A lot of Black men feel the same. Put some respect on our name.
Touré is the host of the podcast “Toure Show” and the podcast docuseries “Who Was Prince?” He is also the author of seven books.
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